My statement of judging was not directed at you but those that judged you for your thoughts.  I felt it was in attack mode too and I don't like that attitude on this forum.  You were venting some anger and frustration and giving a personal opinion.  Everyone has a right to a personal opinion and to respond to others because it is a post on a public forum, but I believe there is a way to respond without being in the attack mode.  There were many feelings and thoughts each of us had regarding all of the issues surrounding what happened and what didn't happened.  I just will reiterate, that in my own personal realm, I deal better with life by dealing with what is in the here and now, not what could have been, or might have been.