Thank you Judy.  I am just am not a beat around the bush kind of person.  I tell it like it is - I don't think that eliminating any facts or telling someone it's okay, when it is not, in the best interest of anyone.  I watch people day after day saying to another - it's okay - it's this, it's that just to kiss up to them, when it's a total lie - and it urks me because what they say to the other person can be truly detrimental to them if you are not completely honest.  I don't believe in half truths, partial truths, nothing - I believe in full truth - and sometimes it is not pretty.  Judy and I are friends, we speak to each other quite often on the phone and we are very frank with each other and very supportive of each other at the same time.  Because of those things, we have formed a very trusting bond.